By Bobi Seredich, Founder of the Southwest Institute for Emotional Intelligence
Since May is Mental Health Awareness Month, it is a great time to reflect on how you are managing the pressures of being a dentist or working in the dental profession. In my years of coaching leaders, I’ve noticed that their key to success is more about attitude than time. The most successful leaders and dentists take time for self-care while balancing stress.
Your ability to change your mindset and attitude has much to do with self-care. Whether you’re up or down in life or rich or poor, you can change your situation for the better. Remember that you can’t change much if you’re depleted of energy, self-worth or rest. Feeling unhealthy, unhappy or lacking mental focus won’t help either. It is crucial to constantly work on yourself — by doing so, you’ll be able to bring your best self forward to help and serve others effectively. Executives and leaders prioritizing self-care are happier, more productive and more engaged. One CEO said it best in a Harvard Business Review article: “Self-care is no longer a luxury; it’s part of the job.”
Why do some dentists ignore self-care?
If self-care is so important, why do some dentists turn a blind eye? Below are a few reasons:
- They think it’s a luxury.
- They think it’s a sign of weakness.
- Dentistry is demanding mentally and physically daily, and many dentists don’t have the time for it.
Carving time out of a busy schedule can be challenging, but too many leaders are stressed and burnt out. When this happens, there’s a release of the stress hormone that puts your body into fight or flight mode. The emotional part of our brain, the amygdala, kicks in and diverts the oxygen and blood flow away from our thinking brain called the prefrontal cortex (which is responsible for logic, reasoning, problem-solving and willpower). Taking time out of your day to practice self-care might be a little uncomfortable initially, but I promise you it’ll be worth it. https://vimeo.com/754350986
How to practice self-care
If you want to be innovative and creative and solve challenges causing pressure, you need to take breaks and manage your energy and stress. It’s important to disengage to re-engage more effectively. Even short breaks improve your level of productivity and focus.
According to an article on leadership best practices, it stated:
“Specifically, a healthy diet has been linked to better moods, higher energy levels and lower levels of depression. Aerobic exercise increases blood flow, boosting both learning and memory. Getting good sleep has been linked to increased focus, improved cognitive function (including creativity and innovation), greater capacity for learning and improved empathy.” Adam Grant researched the topic of self-care in his book, Give & Take, and he shares how selflessness at work leads to exhaustion — and ends up hurting the very people you want to help. There’s a time when giving and generosity can go wrong.
Grant talks about teachers as a great example. Most teachers are givers, as Grant stated in an Inc. magazine article:
“We love teachers who are selfless, but [the research shows that] the most selfless teachers ended up being the least engaged in the classroom and their students did the worst on standardized achievement tests.”
The selfless teachers put everything into teaching and didn’t allow extra time for themselves or their families. Other teachers were givers but took time for their families and themselves — they didn’t give all of their time to students. Grant shared, “They felt less altruistic, but they actually helped more. Their giving was energizing instead of exhausting.”
The “less altruistic” teachers decided to do things differently and did the following: focused on the team; took time to sleep, eat well and exercise; worked on their strengths and delegated responsibilities that were not their area of expertise; hired great team players.
Here are some quick self-care tips and tricks:
- Revamp your workspace. Check out these popular Marie Kondo videos on how to simplify your setup.
- Clean out your mind. The things from your past that are holding you back may originate from your family and your judgment around others. Let go or find a way to confront it, learn from it and then let it go. Learn from your past mistakes, while remembering that you don’t have to keep reliving them. If you’re looking for a great read around this topic, check out The Work by Byron Katie.
- Take time for just you. Having space from your partner, family and work is re-energizing. Work on your strengths and focus on what brings you joy.
- Prioritize wellness. Remember to rest, exercise and have a healthy diet.
- Hire a coach or trainer to support your overall health and wellness. The Millennial Dentist believes in investing in yourself and hiring someone to help you reach your health and fitness goals. We offer several coaching and leadership programs on improving emotional intelligence and managing stress. Here is a link to our public online leadership training courses. We are offering a 15% discount for all Florida Dental Association Members (see details below).
How do you do things that are good for you when you don’t feel like it? Set a schedule. Be flexible with your time. Make time for short meditations or workouts. Go for a walk. Take time for appreciation as a bare minimum.
When a dentist or leader practices self-care and values it, his or her team will follow, creating a more engaged culture. Join me in prioritizing better self-care. Have fun with it and enjoy what you’re doing in life. I just redid my office space and removed a lot of clutter, and it feels fantastic. I’ve started Pilates and yoga again and committed to walking my dogs and meditating more. Now, when I start my workday, I feel more productive and focused.
Bobi Seredich is the Founder of the Southwest Institute for Emotional Intelligence in Phoenix, Arizona. She can be reached at firstname.lastname@example.org.
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